Willamette Valley NVC

Tag: Nonviolent Communication

  • Full Circles Begin with One Turn at a Time

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    Tim Buckley
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    Awake in the night last week, I felt numbness in my heart. For some days, the numbness prevailed. The enormity of issues facing humanity became more than I could emotionally handle. At those times, I “turn away” rather than face it, shoulder it. Helplessness creeps in and I become paralyzed. Today’s newsletter from the Salem…

  • Is NVC Totally Nonviolent?

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    Tim Buckley
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    Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and right-doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there. That part of Rumi’s famous Persian poem is cited frequently because it points to a central value of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) practice – nonjudgment and equality. If we resist the temptation to blame, we can then see others as equals,…

  • Requests and the Agency of Choice: Saying No in NVC

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    Tim Buckley
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    Requests are frequently a challenging aspect of Nonviolent Communication to integrate into our daily behavior. Why?  Lots of us have a built-in pattern of thinking around “have to” thinking, like “I have to go to school (work)”, or “I have to obey my parent’s (employer’s) wishes.” In that world, personal choice is often neglected. (Think…

  • Emotional Needs

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    Molly McCarty
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    NVC invites us to delineate between needs and strategies. A need is something intrinsic to our self-state whereas a strategy is a position we take in order to gratify our needs. We have physical needs and emotional needs. We drink water to meet the need of thirst. But why do we call a friend? Often…

  • A Significant Piece of Mind

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    Tim Buckley
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    I knew the guy was gonna take a swing, and I had prepared for it…which is the whole point of this post. Prepare, meaning practice. He was the field director for US Senate candidate Mike Erickson, a Republican and MAGA devotee. It was a few weeks before the 2024 national election. He followed me outside…