Willamette Valley NVC

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  • Cynicism in My Back Pocket

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    Tim Buckley
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    She’s been a spiritual touchstone for me and we met recently for coffee. I described my daily practice to “stay emotionally balanced” but admitted to being cynical about “the big picture”. Humans have been failing at peace since we could stand upright, I said, and all our technology has only made peace harder to find.…

  • “I’ll Meet You There.”

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    Tim Buckley
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    Drenched each day by a firehose of social chaos and violence, our senses are flooded. We’re at peak saturation.  Angry, scared and bewildered, our survival instincts often trigger responses to fight, freeze, or run away. An equal and opposite reaction is emerging from all that racket. People are seeking peace, inner peace and outer peace,…

  • Moral or Legal: I Chose the Former

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    Tim Buckley
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    Danny called me a couple of weeks ago. “Our mutual friend (I’ll call her Linda) just called to say she has intentionally taken an overdose of opiates. She is tired of the chronic pain. And, she wants one of us to be there with her when she goes,” he said. Attending the death of a…

  • Check This Out – Rose City NVC Intro Class

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    Tim Buckley
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  • Should Leaders Make Emotional Connections?

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    Mathew Hudson
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    I was recently reviewing a workplace psychology textbook chapter discussing the behavioral traits of effective leadership styles. Some of those, including the charismatic and transformational styles, highlight a leader’s ability to form “emotional connection” with team members. I immediately wondered: what, exactly, is an emotional connection? Which emotions are expected in this kind of bond?…

  • Defanging Enemy Images

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    Tim Buckley
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    “It’s part of the water we all swim in!” That rationale is how we – individually and as a group – learn to love, or hate, people who don’t look, act, vote or worship like we do. Changing that “default setting” takes four things: awareness, intention, skills, and practice. Those are things that Nonviolent Communication…

  • Why do we Criticize Others?

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    Molly M
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    Paula Gloria: Why is there such a tendency to criticize others to make ourselves look good? Marshall Rosenberg: Because we’ve been educated for 10,000 years, according to the theologian Walter Wink in his book, “The Powers That Be.” We have been educated for 10,000 years to maintain domination structures, in which a few people dominate many,…

  • The Matrix

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    Molly M
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    The late Jim Manske created a Self-Assessment Matrix for integrating Nonviolent Communication skills that I find nourishing. Click HERE to see how he describes our awakening consciousness to each skill.

  • Radical Finance

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    Molly M
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    I recently listened to Marshall Rosenberg’s short talk on money and it changed my view of charging for services. I noticed that the fee agreement in my personal business is a demand rather than a request – but flexibility on my fee agreement would require self-trust. I’ve tried to liberate myself from the world economic…

  • Listening To People Unlike Ourselves

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    Mathew Hudson
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    Some of us at WVNVC have been participating in Braver Angels Oregon events. We see that NVC’s mission and skill set complement the type of friendly conversations that Braver Angels sets up between people who might not appear to be on the same side of any given social or political issue. At the end of…